Firstly, say something to yourself
“Talk with oneself” is not a reflection of mental disorder or over-depression. Do not believe it? Let’s see what the authorized psychologists said, “Talking with oneself is the safest way to outlet the depression and is very worthy of praise” Talking with your inner heart is also effective as long as you release your voice. It was invented long time before today. In the past, both the penitent facing the wall repented for wrongdoings in church or the prayers prayed in the temple are freeing themselves from talk with themselves.
Secondly, share your secret with your pets
A pet to a woman is more than just a playmate. Especially when you have no one to talk, the pet is definitely the best “emotional trash” and also the most serious listener. They will not transform into “military adviser” who will affect your judgments. They also will definitely keep a secret for you. Please do not interpret sharing secrets with pets as “lonely”. The psychologists said that the comfort from your pet can sometimes be more effective than “human listeners. They will feel as though they experienced it and show more body movements, such as licking your hand, giving you some comfort which will make you feel comfortable and relax. Overseas study also found that when facing with pets, women are more easily to expose their pain and even some will cry loudly, shout or keep rambling. That’s the quickest way of adjusting our mood and reducing our pressure.
Thirdly, write out the troubles
Writing out the troubles is the latest decompression method recommended by the American Psychological Association to the national white collars. Psychologist’s study also confirmed that the human mind will become active and the ability of resisting to stress will be enhanced after 6 weeks if one keeps writing out the pressure and trouble for 6 weeks.
As for that, the experienced psychologists said, “The reason why sometimes your trouble come one by one is because your brain has accumulated a lot of inaccurate, incomplete and lacking rational negative information which cause you brain thinking can not be eased sufficiently. After you write out your trouble as a diary, you will find that the sorrow has been decreased a lot; writing all of them out, you will find that the importance of the trouble things has been reduced largely” After you finish writing it out, the trouble will be left at the diary. You may even find that you need not remember it at all.
If you published your words on the Web Blog, you can also get your readers suggestions. The interactivity can lead your heart to do a spiritual SPA. I used to write my thoughts in my diary notebook, after I got a net book from this website: http://www.dinodirect.com/laptops/, I exchange my ideas with my friends’ online everyday and I feel very much relaxed since then.
Fourthly, do something that you really like to do.
Ancients would turn to wine if there is no one to talk when they are frustrated. But as a modern person, you have much more choices. You can sleep, singing, go shopping or play… From the perspective of psychology, those are “replacement therapy”.
“Replacement therapy” is a rehabilitation process and the impact of the resistance to stress which can help you to recover the mental and physical balance. But first, you should find your own “alternative therapy” which is suitable for you. For example, you pay attention to find out when you are stressful and when you feel comfortable. If you find that you will not feel any pressure when shopping, you can go shopping instead if you need someone to talk with; if you find that being with families will help you to calm down, you can stay with your families when you are frustrated.
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